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Lala’s Bedtime Tales  Blog is a helpful resource for individuals that enjoy erotica & spicy romance stories. The blog is for those searching for healthy relationship advice and sex tips from sexual wellness experts and resources about sexual health education and women’s wellness information from medical professionals and mental health specialists.

Sex Position of the Month: Best Sex Moves for Curvy Lovers
Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author

Sex Position of the Month: Best Sex Moves for Curvy Lovers

January's sex positions of the month are hot sex positions for vulva-owners that are larger, plus size, and curvier! January is self-love month, and Lala wants you to have the confidence and body positivity needed to enjoy your sexuality! Your size should not deter you from engaging in sexual activities that will provide you with the most sexual enjoyment and pleasure. Simple modifications to some of the most popular sex positions will give you the best sex of your life, no matter your size. Therefore, Lala provides you with four of her favorite sex positions that will have you feeling sexy, confident, and like a goddess in the bedroom!

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The Fine Line Between Admiration & Stalking: Stalking Awareness 101
Love and Sex Advice Margot Walker, RNC, MSN, WHNP, IBCLC Love and Sex Advice Margot Walker, RNC, MSN, WHNP, IBCLC

The Fine Line Between Admiration & Stalking: Stalking Awareness 101

Like domestic violence, stalking is a crime of power and control. Stalking is intentional, repeated behavior targeting a specific person that makes you feel afraid or harassed. It involves visual or physical proximity, nonconsensual communication, verbal, written, or implied threats, or a combination thereof that would cause a reasonable person to fear for their safety or the safety of others or suffer substantial emotional distress. (Tjaden and Thoennes) Stalking may get worse or become violent over time. Stalking may also be a sign of an abusive relationship.

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Sex Position of the Month: The Delights of Deep Penetration
Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author

Sex Position of the Month: The Delights of Deep Penetration

December's sex positions of the month are all about deep penetration. Lala believes an understanding of deep penetrative sexual intercourse is of the essence because it's vital when thinking of the majority of vulva owners' sexual pleasure and satisfaction. Deep penetrative sex is the best way to stimulate a vulva owner's G-spot, C-Spot, or A-Spot. Most individuals find sexual intercourse more enjoyable physically and intimately when penetration is deep. Deep penetration is mentally gratifying for individuals because it positions your and your partner's or partners' bodies close together and allows for more intimacy during sexual intercourse. Deep penetrative sex can be done either vaginally or anally and typically involves the penetration of a penis, dildo, or strap-on. Deep penetration is a great way to explore and educate yourself on what internal pleasure spots need to be stimulated to achieve your best orgasm during sex. Therefore, Lala provides you with four of her favorite sex positions to help you find that big "O", also known as the "Orgasm" you seek or more pleasure during penetrative sex.

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 Enjoying Romance and Sex while Living with HIV/AIDS
Love and Sex Advice Margot Walker, RNC, MSN, WHNP, IBCLC Love and Sex Advice Margot Walker, RNC, MSN, WHNP, IBCLC

Enjoying Romance and Sex while Living with HIV/AIDS

At Lala’s Bedtime Tales, we believe in living healthy and safe lives as our authentic selves. Knowing how to reduce the risk of acquiring sexually transmitted infections, including HIV/AIDS, is essential in living a long and healthy life. In the past, HIV/AIDS was a terminal illness surrounded by social isolation and stigma. Nowadays, HIV isn’t seen as a death sentence; but a chronic, treatable illness; that doesn’t have a cure. There is no vaccine to prevent HIV. As medical research has advanced, now most people live with human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) and do not progress to Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome. Medications such as antiretroviral therapy (ART) and Pre-exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) are essential in reducing the risk of transmission of HIV from an infected partner to a non-infected partner. Choosing lower-risk sexual behaviors and not using injectable drugs are highly important in preventing HIV. Serodiscordant couples or couples where one partner is HIV-positive and the other is not may decide to conceive and have children without infecting their partner or baby.

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Sex Position of the Month: Toys to Make Sex More Fun
Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author

Sex Position of the Month: Toys to Make Sex More Fun

For November's sex position of the month, Lala discusses how sex toys, adult novelty products, or sex furniture add a level of enjoyment, pleasure, and fun to any sex position. Sex toys aren't just for self-pleasure or solo play. These days, numerous sex toys, furniture, and accessories are made specifically to aid in the satisfaction of a couple's sex life. Whether it's sexually stimulating lubes to create different experiences in arousal, couple toys, such as We-Vibes, fetish-related sex furniture, or bondage and restraints, these sex products will rock your world and broaden how you experience sexual activity with an intimate partner or partners. However, it can be overwhelming and confusing with all the sex products out there to liven up your bedroom fun. Therefore, Lala has provided you with her five favorite sex products and positions to utilize to take your sex life to new levels and heights.

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Sex Beyond Intercourse
Love and Sex Advice Margot Walker, RNC, MSN, WHNP, IBCLC Love and Sex Advice Margot Walker, RNC, MSN, WHNP, IBCLC

Sex Beyond Intercourse

Sex is any activity that may lead to arousal or climax. Sexual activity may involve a partner, partners or be a solo activity. Sex includes our mind, spirit, and body. It encompasses all body parts, including mouths, tongues, fingers, hands, toes, feet, genitals, anus, and so much more. Our five senses: touch, taste, smell, hearing, and sight, play a significant role in our heightened arousal and enjoyment of sexual activities. Sexual health is not just the absence of disease or dysfunction but embodies the physical, emotional, mental, and social aspects of well-being concerning sexuality.

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Sex Position of the Month: Sideways Sexcapades
Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author

Sex Position of the Month: Sideways Sexcapades

The spoon sex position is considered one of the four basic sex positions, and it's one of two positions that allow your partner rear-entry during sexual intercourse. Sideways sex is typically one of the easiest ways to have and enjoy sexual activity with a partner. It's one of the best positions to stimulate a vulva owner's g-spot and clitoris or a penis owner's scrotum to heighten their sexual pleasure. Side-by-side sex positions are also a great way to engage in anal play, anal sex, or vibrator usage. Spooning and other sideways sex positions allow both partners to control the angle, depth, speed, and intensity of sex. A great perk of this position is that it can prolong the time it takes for male partners to reach orgasm. Most intimate partners prefer side-by-side sex when they're tired and want that mid to late-night rendezvous or a delectable treat of morning sex. However, the spoon position is simplistic and can become dull over time. So, with these four easy adaptations shown below, Lala will help you make your basic sex livelier, fun, and oh so enjoyable.

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Love Should Never Hurt: Intimate Partner Violence Awareness
Love and Sex Advice Margot Walker, RNC, MSN, WHNP, IBCLC Love and Sex Advice Margot Walker, RNC, MSN, WHNP, IBCLC

Love Should Never Hurt: Intimate Partner Violence Awareness

Intimate partner violence is a crime! Abusers can be male or female. However, data shows that 82% of domestic violence victims are female. (Black, 2011) Consider the amount of effort a woman goes through to report domestic violence. Police interviews, the paperwork involved obtaining a restraining order, dealing with questions from neighbors, friends, and family. To think that this is a false claim is preposterous. Telling the truth about domestic violence does not guarantee a woman will be awarded custody of the children in a divorce or that the abuser will be prosecuted. A person of color or someone in the LGTBQ+ community experiences intimate part violence at disproportionate rates in our society.

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5 Tips to Pleasure Your Mate
Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author

5 Tips to Pleasure Your Mate

Whether you are in the honeymoon phase of a new relationship, or you’ve been together for decades, it's always important to work on your connection and emotional bonds with your partner. So, ask yourself, how are you growing your relationship, nurturing healthy habits, and most importantly, pleasuring your mate? Pleasuring your mate is something that should be done in and out of the bedroom for a strong relationship. We're going to explore five ways to pleasure your mate and ensure a happy and healthy relationship for the long run.

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Sex Position of the Month: Redefining Missionary
Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author Love and Sex Advice Lala, Sexual Health Educator, Sex & Relationship Coach, and Erotica Author

Sex Position of the Month: Redefining Missionary

September is "Pleasure Your Mate Awareness" month. Therefore, Lala’s position of the month is a lovers' choice that allows for the most affection through variations. This oldie but goodie is everyone’s go-to move and is considered a traditional favorite and most common position for sexual escapades.  Yes, we’re talking about Missionary! People enjoy missionary worldwide because it's a comfortable position that heterosexual and same-sex couples can enjoy during sexual activity. This amazing position centers women’s orgasmic pleasure with numerous degrees of clitoral stimulation and penetration depth.

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